5 Rules for Flirting

Let’s face it, with Tinder, OKCupid, Match.com and all the other dating sites out there, it’s likely that one of your first modes of contact with someone is going to be via text. That’s totally normal these days and isn’t as taboo as it used to be, but it can allow for some gray area when it comes to the rules of flirting. It’s fun to flirt a bit via text, but make sure you’re doing it right!

Be yourself. 

Always be you when you text! Just because he can’t see your face or hear your voice doesn’t mean you should be more brazen than normal. Don’t look up what to say online or text things you would never say in person. It’s fine to ask your roommate for a little help, but make sure to stay true to who you are. Text your ex back¬†This is the best representation of you and he won’t be confused when you finally meet.

Avoid sarcasm

It’s really tough to judge tone of voice via text, so try and avoid sarcasm. It’s much more important to say what you mean — you don’t want him to get the wrong impression!

Don’t overanalyze

Like we said before, it’s hard to judge someone’s tone of voice via text, so give them the benefit of the doubt before you read too much into something. Take what they say as what they mean and don’t try and read between the lines.

Don’t overuse emoji’s

Keep the emoji use to a minimum. It’s OK to use a smiley every once in awhile, but other than that I would cut it out completely. Many people find it obnoxious and distracting, so keep it at bay for now.

Don’t only text

If you’re texting for hours or even days, it’s time to make the next move. If he hasn’t asked you out, hint at a new bar you’ve been wanting to try or a concert you want to see this weekend. He should pick up the hint and make the next move. If the texting goes on too long, call it quits.

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Last Modified: February 18, 2015

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